JO PORTIA MAYARI

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I’m OFFICIALLY DIVORCED!

11.08.2022 🪩 OFFICIALLY DIVORCED AND SIGNED OFF BY THE COURT!!

I received an email from my lawyers today that their office just received the finalized official judgment. That chapter is officially over.

The last two years of this entire process was like being in an emotional torture chamber of never knowing if you were going to be poked at or prodded by some sharp object taking a stab at your tender heart.

When I started this process with my ex in August 2020, there was this ambition and dream of doing it together like a team, but that dream faded quickly in a matter of months. I found myself once again having an affair with potential. The potential conscious uncoupling with love and the potential of co-parenting together and ushering my kids through this transition.

In the last two years, I learned how to be in intimate relationships with grief, disappointment, and loss.

I learned to heal unfelt emotions and feelings that I kept silently to myself while navigating through unexpected PTSD from unresolved wounds as I consciously uncoupled from the marriage without my ex.

I learned that divorce isn't a tragedy but an opportunity to teach children a new way to love.

Here it is. The end.

And I'm already starting to feel the relief of freedom.

Freedom from the burden of worrying about an email from my lawyer negotiating basic needs for my kids.

Freedom from having to reopen the stories of how things came to end.

Freedom from the length and complexity of the legal process and the piles of paperwork.

My journey with divorce has been incredibly difficult and also incredibly liberating. I am grateful for the wisdom it has brought me and for the love and support of my family and friends. It's been a very difficult and long process, but I'm so glad it's finally over. ❤️