Empowering Ourselves Through Self Pleasure

In a society that traditionally centralizes on sex from a man’s vantage view, sexuality from a woman’s point of view is not as openly shared, discussed, or celebrated. The culture we live in has normalized masturbation for men, but the topic around self-pleasure for women has been not only taboo but also looked at as shameful or dirty. What is backward about that imposition is that a huge part of who we are as individuals, and as women is our sexuality.

A loaded, layered and multidimensional question that can mean something different to each one of us. If you are not 100% sure what that means to you, we are in the same boat, because I am still in the process of trying to define what that means in my life and the role it plays in my overall well being. What I have come to understand though, is that sexual wellness to me isn’t just about the sex I am having or simply about pleasure. For me, it has to do with how I see myself as a human being, my ability to embrace and be empowered in enjoying my sexuality, accepting my body, the skin I live in, and the sense of truly owning my sexual actions.